Had my Mum and Sisters over for a barbecue yesterday afternoon. We wanted to get them all together as it was one of my sisters birthday last sunday and it was my niece's birthday recently as well. I was a little apprehensive as there was apparently tension between my Mum and my younger sister following an eventful week in Menorca recently.
All things considered I think it went very well. We had glorious weather and plenty of food.
There was one thing that bugged me, and that was the tension between my Mum and the younger of my 2 sisters. I think the biggest problem members of my family have is not saying what's on their mind for fear of upsetting someone. This in turn just builds resentment that bubbles under the surface waiting for a catalyst to let it out in a big row. That's one thing I try to do now is say what I'm thinking. It may upset someone but at least I'm being honest with them. People can then deal with what I have to say and then move on, Keeping quiet is not an option as I've seen the damage that can do long term.